Our wedding day was one of the most memorable days of our lives. And it wasn’t because of the gorgeous floral arrangements or feeling like a princess in my dress. Our wedding day was special because it was a precious moment for us to share with our family and friends.
Before we started planning the wedding, I didn’t realize how easy it is to get caught. The wedding industry is a billion dollar business that uses the emotional aspect of an important step in two people’s lives to sell them more stuff that they don’t necessarily need. And it’s really easy to get caught up and believe that you need this and that, when in reality, you don’t. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a fun experience, and it’s great to use your creativity to put together a beautiful day that feels magical for you. But what I want to try and do is bring attention to what’s more important.
Wedding planning is already a stressful process. There are a lot of factors that I didn’t realize would affect my stress levels during the months leading up to the wedding. And then there’s the added stress of wanting to create the ‘perfect’ day.
The reality of getting married is that you are merging your life with your partner’s; it’s the union of two families and two backgrounds. It’s a beautiful thing, but this merging entails a lot of changes, namely the dynamics within the different family units. For myself, my role as a daughter, a sister, a niece, an aunt, a friend, all of that changed. It’s a positive change, but a change nonetheless that I had to adapt to but that people around me also had to adapt to. To ease the transition, I had to take a lot of time to reflect on what my priorities are, what I am willing to do and what my boundaries are, but I also took the time to have conversations with the people close to me to convey to them that even though there was going to be a change, that they still mattered to me and that I needed to work along with them to find a new balance.
So what does all of that have anything to do with the wedding industry? Well, I think it’s easy to get distracted and get stressed and just focus on details like the stationary, the dress, the centerpieces, and flowers, the decorations, the guestbook, the guestlist, the seating arrangement…the list. Is. Endless. And don’t get me wrong, I got caught up many times and had to bring myself back in check to focus on what matters: the marriage itself. What really matters? The color of the napkins or your relationship with your future husband? Is it really worth getting worked up over or stressed over? No, it’s not. What really matters the quality and growth of your relationship with your life partner. The wedding isn’t about just one day, it’s about the rest of your lives that you will have together!
I learned a lot throughout the wedding process – let me know if you’re interested in hearing more about it and whether you had specific questions! I’m also interested in hearing what your thoughts are about this blog post. Did you go through a similar experience? What did you learn during your wedding planning? Share your thoughts with the Elle is for Love community or through social media @SeppyforLove!
[ Photo Credit | Thank you for my amazing cousin for capturing these special moments ]