Are you ready to have your BEST year EVER?! And you can! Start by asking yourself these 5 easy questions to help guide your goals and intentions so that you can have the most amazing year!
You’ve taken the time to reflect on your year….ok great, but now what?
You’re probably wondering: “What goals do I want to set? What do I want to achieve? What will make me happy?”
These are all great questions and oftentimes, I’m finding that a lot of you come to me because you don’t even know what goals you WANT to set. Which is why the process feels so overwhelming.
It’s great to talk about setting and achieving goals but I get it, if it’s not something you’re used to doing or if you even had the time to stop and do things for YOU, the idea of thinking about what goals you want to achieve is daunting.
But here’s the thing, you already have the answers within you. Deep down you already know what your heart truly wants.
You just need to give yourself the time and space to be able to tap into your heart and listen to it.You already have all the answers within you - you just need to give yourself the time and space to tap into your heart to hear them Click To Tweet
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. Setting and achieving your goals is a personal development journey. It’s not only about the goals you want to achieve or the dreams you want to bring to life.
Yes, that’s definitely part of it. But it’s about the person you’re becoming in the path towards achieving those goals.
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Because as you go through life, you change. Your experiences, your encounters and your life journey will change who you are, what you learn and who you become.
Therefore your goals will change as YOU change.
Why am I mentioning this?
Because I want you to be able to remove some of the pressure from yourself. Pressuring yourself to figure all your shit out right away, understanding who you are and what you are will only paralyze you and slow down the process.
Give yourself the gift of time. Be kind with yourself. And understand that this is a journey that will last a lifetime.Give yourself the gift of time. Be kind with yourself and understand that achieving your goals and building your dream life is a journey that will last a lifetime Click To Tweet
And once you start asking the right questions and cultivating the RIGHT habits to support a life filled with meaning and purpose, you’ll start gaining clarity of vision for yourself, who you want to be and what your dream life looks like.
Ok, I hope I got my point across. So what next?
Well, if you want to have your best year ever, if you’re looking to gain clarity of vision, to understand what you want, then you need to ask yourself the right questions.
You need to first understand yourself, your journey and how your experiences made you who you are today. And once you start building a deeper understanding and appreciation of the beautiful and unique person that you are, you will inevitably start seeing the goals that you want to achieve, the things in life that will make you feel happy and fulfilled.To have your best year ever, you need to first understand yourself, your journey and how your experiences made you who you are today Click To Tweet
So. First step was to take a step back and reflect on your year (which I talked about in the previous post, so make sure to read that first!). And don’t worry, whatever time of the year is, you should always be taking the time for self-reflection so that you can do some introspection and understand yourself more and more.
The second step is to ask yourself questions to clarify your vision of your “best year”. Once you understand that, it will be easier to create it!
Your vision of your “Best year”
When’s the last time you stopped and asked yourself: “What does my best year look like? What does my dream life look like? And how can I make THIS the best year ever? What’s it going to take? What am I willing to do to get there?”
You have to keep in mind your “best year” or your dream life, however you want to look at it…your GOALS and happiness and how you perceive success is different for each and every person.
Your vision belongs to YOU. And no one else’s. Your vision for your best year doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s because we each have our own goals, ideas, aspirations, dreams.
And we all have different upbringings, backgrounds and vision of life.
So this is a reminder that your vision for your best year comes from within you, and should be based on yourself and no one else.
So let’s get into the 5 questions to ask yourself to have your best year ever.
These are questions that will help guide you towards figuring out what the heck you want and what goals you want to achieve.
And again, I want you to keep in mind that these questions are only part of the puzzle.
You have to keep digging. You have to consistently reflect on your day, your week, on your month, on your year.
Because the more time you spend on yourself, on doing the inner work and on understanding who you are and what your journey has been, the easier it will be to clarify what you want.
So let’s get into it, my lovely.
Question # 1 | Who do I want to be?
This questions comes up over and over again. And with good reason.
Because it’s so damn powerful.
Seriously, have you ever thought about that question: who do I want to BE?
Not what I want to achieve? Not what did I think I *should* achieve?
No. None of that.
Let’s ask more empowering and inspiring questions.
Who the heck do you want to BE?!?
Do you want to be…positive? Full of energy? Happy? Do you want to be positive? Or perhaps you want to be in shape and healthy. OR maybe you want to be rich! That’s okay! You need to be honest with recognize the type of person you want to be so that you can understand WHY and then the HOW.
By defining who you want to be and have clarity of vision of your ideal self, you will be able to make decision a lot easier. Your day-to-day choices, thoughts and behaviours will be guided by that vision. Your goals and vision for your life will be guided by that definition.
By having a deep understanding of the type of person you want to be, you will be able to start bringing your dream life into reality because you will more confidently step into your ideal self and your dream life.
Question # 2 | What are the goals that will get me there?
Ok, now that you know the type of woman that you want to be … what the goals that will help you there?
In other words, if you want to be healthy for example, great, so what goals would help you get there?
This question is deceivingly simple when in fact, there are few layers that you need to uncover.
Because if you want to understand the goals that you need to reach to become a healthy person, then you first figure out…what does “healthy” mean to you? What does it look like? How does it feel?For me, healthy means that I am full of vibrant energy, that my body is functioning the way that it’s supposed to. That I feel light in my body. Being healthy also means that I have effective emotional management capabilities and that I’m able to manage my stress and anxiety effectively.
So if *that’s* my definition of good health, then what are the goals that I need to achieve to be that person? To be healthy?
It means that I need to eat healthy, drink enough water, move my body consistently and to take care of my mental health.
And then I can break each of those down into more measurable goals – eating healthy means I need to have enough veggies and fruits, to eat the right proteins, to limit my sugar intake.
Do you see the thought process? (keep in mind that I want you to go a bit more in depth than I’m going here, but I’m just trying to show you what your thought process should be).
Question # 3 | How do I want to feel this year?
Again, another inspired questions to ask yourself that will help guide your choices when it comes to your goals.
How do you want to feel?
Do you want to feel …happy? Joyful? Joie de vivre? Or do you want to feel focused on something specific?
Questions 2 and 3 might have some overlaps. That’s okay!! It just means that it’s something you should really be focusing on (i.e. if happiness came up in both questions then you definitely need to set that as a goal!).
If you’re not sure where to start, you can always look back and see the dominant emotions that you’ve been feeling and pinpoint the emotions you DON’T want to feel anymore.
For example, have you been feeling overwhelmed? And is that something you want to leave in your past? Great! So maybe this year you want to feel more balanced?
Question # 4 | What are the goals that will get me there?
Same thing as question 2 – I want you to think about the specific goals that you need to achieve to feel the emotions that you want to be feeling.
If your main goal is to feel happy, then what are the steps that you need to take to get to that point?
Well, what does happiness look like for you? What makes you feel happy? What are some activities, people or things that make you happy?
Are you not sure? Then think about someone that you admire and seem like they have their shit together (hint: no one has all their shit together…ever) and then start thinking about why you perceive them as being happy? What do you think they’re doing that makes them happy?
Question # 5 | What am I willing to do to achieve my goals this year?
Ok, here’s some tough love from Coach Seppy: your goals wont come easy. It’s going to get hard at times. You’re going to get frustrated.
If you’re not feeling any of those things, then you’re not working towards the right goals to begin with.
What are you willing to do this year to make it your best year ever and achieve your dream goals? How much time are you going to dedicate to yourself, to your dream life? What are you going to sacrifice?
How much time and energy and effort are you will to invest in yourself and your dream life to make it your best year?
Because you have to be realistic with yourself and be honest with how much time you’re willing to put towards this. Because it will take time. It will take energy.
But remember…anything worth having is worth fighting for!
Sit down for as long as you need and go through these 5 questions so that you can have a clearer vision of what your best year looks like.
I created a worksheet for you so that you can keep your answer in one spot. This is the type of inner work that you should be doing on a regular basis, so in about 6 months, I would encourage to answer these questions again, and compare with your previous answers to see the progress and how much you’ve changed in a short amount of time!